Marriage can get really boring if you don’t work at it. Over time it can seem more like a “business transaction” than something that is real and deeply connected.  I can tell you that God never designed marriage to be boring and unfulfilling. Sure, you are going to have those seasons in life when your marriage isn’t rolling on all cylinders, but it should never stay there.  I find that someone has to get to a point where they say, I am not going to accept where things are and I am going to do my part to make a change. So if you are unhappy with the state of your marriage and you want to make a change, here is one idea that can help – incorporate more moments of “surprise.”  

We all naturally express and prefer receiving love in different ways.  For example, I enjoy being surprised but I can’t say the same for my wife.  She would prefer knowing everything in advance. I would love to tell you about the time I surprised her on her birthday when she was in her law school class.  A true classic! My thing is, coming up with fun, harmless ways to surprise your spouse now and then is one great way to keep your romance alive and minimize the chances of your marriage becoming boring.  Because let’s be honest, when a marriage becomes boring, our interests and attention goes elsewhere. Not a good combination.

Here are some fun ways you and your spouse can have a little fun together surprising each other.  Remember, whatever you do, it doesn’t have to be huge to make a big impact. It’s the thought behind it. Sometimes it’s the spontaneity itself that puts a spark into the day and brings romance into the evening. Have fun!

Say Something Sweet Out of the Blue

You have the power to make your partner shine and put a smile on their face. Say something sweet and from the heart and watch their face glow. When life gets tough, sometimes it’s hard to focus on the good things, but you have the power to spread some encouragement and love with your words. Say something sweet today and see how it changes the mood.

Send a “Just for Fun” Text 

Texting can end up just becoming a back and forth “honey-do” list, but it doesn’t have to be. Send your honey a text that’s just for fun. It could be a hilarious inside joke the two of you have, a funny meme you know will make them crack up or if you’re feeling a little more serious, send a romantic text that lets them know you’re thinking of them.

Secret Date Night

Your secret date night can be fun, romantic, adventurous—it’s whatever you make of it! Let your partner know to block off their calendar because YOU are planning a secret date night that they won’t want to miss! Think of the things you two like to do together and add something new to the mix. Make it a night you both won’t forget, but don’t spill the beans—the surprise is what makes it fun!

Buy Your Sweetheart a Treat

Sometimes those little gifts can make the biggest impact. Whether it’s bringing home a bar of chocolate and her favorite take-out or you found a team sweatshirt you know he’ll love, keep romance alive with little gift-giving gestures that show your partner that you love to see them smile.

Hide and Scare Them

Yes, you read that right. Sometimes kids get it right with their silliness. As adults, we often let ourselves get bogged down in the to-do list and forget that it really is fun to get lost in these playful games. So go ahead, hide behind the door, play tag, or fill some water balloons on a hot day. It’s fun to forget your responsibilities for just a moment and have those fun moments as a couple.

Well, what ideas will you be trying this week? Let me know how it goes in the comments! And if you love our blogs, the best way to give back is to SHARE with your social media followers. We are a growing community and love it when new people find us.

Thanks for reading and until next week—

Your Virtual Life Mentor,

Doug